I’m working on the half-robe for my regency outfit–here’s a sneak peak!
1) It’s not my job to make people treat me well.
2) It’s also not my moral obligation to patiently endure and forgive people who are abusive–regardless of how much they are suffering.
3) I know better than anyone else what I have experienced.
4) I am under no obligation to give other people my time when I don’t want to.
5) Nobody gets to tell me who I am.
6) I am not interested in bashing myself for choosing not to live according to other people’s expectations.
7) I can trust that my emotions are legitimate information to work with, not irrational inconveniences for other people to shut down.
8) I don’t have to change everything about myself.
9) I am allowed to pick my battles.
10) It’s ok to not be ok all the time.
Bonus: But sometimes I get to be happy
The other day I saw that PBS is promoting a documentary (not aired yet) called ‘Autism in Love’, which centers around four autistic adults talking about their experiences with dating and relationships.
As a neurotypical person in a long-term relationship with an autistic partner, I’m cautiously intrigued. I would love to see this topic thoughtfully broached more often, especially since so many people seem to have a very limited exposure to positive representations of autistic adults.
I haven’t posted for a while because I was visiting a friend for a week, and then I moved!
The move happened very suddenly. Some wonderful friends have made a space for me in their home so that I can be away from a living situation that was working very badly for me. I have been in my new space for three days now and I already feel much safer.